Washington, May 4 (Inditop.com) Parents seem unable to come to terms with their teen-agers’ sexuality, given widespread concerns about the consequences of such sexual activity.
A new study shows that many parents think that their children aren’t interested in sex – but that everyone else’s kids are.
“Parents I interviewed had a very hard time thinking about their own teenaged children as sexually desiring subjects,” says Sinikka Elliott, assistant professor of sociology at North Carolina State University (NCSU) and study author.
In other words, parents find it difficult to think that their teenagers want to have sex.
“At the same time,” Elliott says, “parents view their teens’ peers as highly sexual, even sexually predatory.”
By taking this stance, the parents shift the responsibility for potential sexual activity to others – attributing any such behaviour to peer pressure, coercion or even entrapment.
For example, Elliott says, parents of teenage boys were often concerned that their sons may be lured into sexual situations by teenage girls who, the parents felt, may use sex in an effort to solidify a relationship.
The parents of teenage girls, meanwhile, expressed fears that their daughters would be taken advantage of by sexually driven teenage boys. These beliefs contribute to stereotypes of sexual behaviour that aren’t helpful to parents or kids.
“By using sexual stereotypes to absolve their children of responsibility for sexual activity, the parents effectively reinforce those same stereotypes,” Elliott says, according to NCSU release.
Parents’ use of these stereotypes also paints teen heterosexual relationships in an unflattering, adversarial light, Elliott says and notes the irony of this: “Although parents assume their kids are heterosexual, they don’t make heterosexual relationships sound very appealing.”
Elliott is also the author of the forthcoming book, Not My Kid: Parents and Teen Sexuality, which will by published by New York University Press.
These findings were published in the May issue of Symbolic Interaction.
